Marry your body and be aware of the sweet miracle of muscles
And be aware of the way they sing
Like a bow across a violin in these rhythmic, repetitive movements
Which are recommended for all adults
Even if they have never been told that they should
Take those few minutes out of each day to converse with
The living tension between your hips and back and neck
Even if it is not the formal waltz of the downward dog
But just hugging and twirling for a few seconds,
The hardwood floor under flexing toes
In front of the window facing
The yard, where you can feel the sun
And greet the day to every bird and bug –
Squeeze tight every place on your body that you can reach
Because it is as precious a gift as the wind in your lungs
The water in your blood
The earth in your bones
And the firelight in your brain.
You are so fabulous. It is mindblowing.
Just think, there is at least one thing that you really rock at
And it may be hard to see
And even harder to appreciate
But you are one fine piece of human being,
You stardust jockey.
I know that there are people who are out there right now, telling you that
You aren’t good enough,
You aren’t thin enough,
You won’t amount to anything ever,
And I know that the strongest voice is probably the one in your own head
So I’m giving you earbuds
That are made of moon magic and love energy
And they are going to rock a constant stream of anthems
For you from now until forever
Because you are worth every second of every day
And nobody – least of all someone who doesn’t know you –
Has the right to make you feel like that’s not how it is.
30 Things I’m Glad I Know Before I Turn 30: Part 2
6. My body.
I know what I like. I know what I hate. I know what will happen if I put certain things in it. I know my chemical imbalances. I know when I feel good. I’m very aware of my physicality. I am a meat bag.
7. How to tell people how I feel.
Confrontation. Telling it like it is. Being blunt. Padding where appropriate and showing emotion as necessary.
8. How to forgive – both myself and others.
Letting go of grudges doesn’t just go outward. It also means saying to myself, “Yeah, you fucked up. Don’t do it next time, yeah? Yeah. Off you go.”
9. My hobbies.
I used to be absolutely paralyzed when people asked me about my hobbies. Especially after I stopped LARPing. I used to deal with a terrible anxiety about doing stuff other than what I thought I “should” be doing at a given point. By letting go of that, I now have a laundry list of interests: taxidermy, painting, felting, sculpting, traveling, photography, on and on and on.
10. How to have a day job.
If I had a dollar for every day during my twenties that I was angry about the office jobs I’ve had as a post-graduate, I could probably take a Caribbean cruise. Over the years, though, I’ve learned a lot of great lessons about how to handle not doing what you think you should be doing 24-7. I’m sharing some of these secrets in my newsletter, by the way.